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The title of this post was a quote said to me by one of my participants in a recent training camp. He said that, the statement just came to his mind when he was thinking how to summarise his learning from the camp. Kudos to him, as for me, this quote “Fate, doesn’t lies in the stars but it lies in you. You choose your Fate, nobody but you” really struck me big time!!

It just make me realised that whatever you do or where ever you are now has little to do with Fate but it got everything that is to do with yourself. Where you are or what you are today is hugely due to the choices you had made in life and it had nothing to do with Fate… just use my current situation as an example, it is not Fate that make me working as a trainer now, it is not fate that brought me a degree, it is not Fate that fails my business venture and it is not Fate that I am who I am today.

It is me, myself that make who i am today, Why?  this is because, at certain and different points in my life, I had decided to make a choice and made a decision and stick to it. Regardless, the results of the choice is positive or negative, I am the one that create my own results and I will be responsible for it .

When we are talking about choices we are always talking about options too, in any situations, there are plenty of choices and options , however, the challenge is, are we able to see them or not.

Many of time, people fails to be aware that they are the one who got themselves into certain situations, hence they seldom will take responsibility to their own life… and more often than not, they will push everything to the Fate, saying things like.. “this is destiny,i can’t change it, i’m fated to be like that” etc, etc.

Guess what, for people who always says those above-mentioned statements, things will never going to change for them, and that’s because they had leave everything to Fate, there is no need for them to take any form of action because they believed that whatever is going to happen to them is due their Fate! And not long from now, they will also forget that they actually can have choices to make a difference to their own life.

The good thing now is that I’m aware that I have not allow myself to let fate to decide who am I and what am I, I’m really happy to understand that where am I today is largely due to my choices that I had made in the past. I will not blame Fate for my downfalls,nor will I use Fate as an excuse if things are not moving smoothly for me.

I’m so glad that I have the awareness that indeed “Fate, doesn’t lies in the stars but it lies in you”, and because of that, I am able to be more clear of what I want and what are the choices and options available to me.

Now is really the time to take responsibility and ownership of my own life, so that I can design my Fate and not let Fate design me.