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OH OH, 15 days without a post, that’s means I had broken my commitment of 2 posts per week BIG TIME!! It also means that I am at least 4 posts short to my agreement. Haiz…. So much so, for the big talk by me back on 20th October 2008 that I told myself that I will keep my focus and discipline to maintain my posting frequency. Guess in the end, I just not as focused and discipline that I will like to be.

Well, but then again, one thing that is different this time round for not posting for the past 2 weeks, is that I’m totally aware that I didn’t post any article and I was totally aware that I had broken my agreement and commitment. Yes, I was totally AWARE!!!

So, the question for myself is that “since I was aware that I didn’t write any post, then how come I didn’t make the effort to write something and post it anyway?”

And the answer to the above question is really very simple, it is that I really got no ideas and no inspirations of what to write on!

For the past 2 weeks, I had been busy with work and I was feeling really tired after every program, and during that period, my life had just revolved with just work and work. From 16th -21th November that week, nothing really interesting went on in my life beside work (I was in a 4days 3nights camp once again but it was held in our training center in Singapore) and I really had nothing to write.

In fact, even though I’m aware that I need to write something for that week, I refused to write and that was because I really got nothing interesting or anything that can make me excited about to write on.

Another reason, was that even though, I had once again learned and experienced a lot of new things during work, I just didn’t want to write another post talking about my work again. So people, believe or not, It was a conscious effort to decide not to write.

For me, I don’t want my website to just talk about my work alone as my intent of JonesLiew.com is that I really want it to be a compilation of post on all the aspect of my life events and experience. Plus, with every post, it should have a certain learning value, a thought provoking situation or a message to be sent out to the world. So, unless I can be sure that my post can add value to my readers and friends, then I will write, if not, and even if I know I will be breaking the 2 post per week agreement, I will refused to write.

What I had learnt from this episode of mine was that I had learnt that if I want to do something, I will want to do it well, even if I am uncomfortable, I will give it my best and do it. I had also learnt that, if I really do not have the confidence or I’m really do not know and do not want to do then it will be better to choose not to do, I will rather refused to do then forced myself to do something that I do not know how to and don’t want to do. As the saying goes,

“DO NOT DO THINGS FOR THE SAKE OF DOING, DO IT ONLY WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO, ONLY THEN YOU WILL BE SURE THAT YOU WILL BE HAPPY WITH THE THINGS THAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO”.       

The above statement is really the main reason why I didn’t post anything for past 15 days.

I want to thank some of my friends who had reminded me that I had broken my agreement. Thank you for keeping track for my post. All I can say now is that, I’m back here writing, and be rest assured, I had came back with more interesting life experience and personal thoughts to share with you all.

And that is because for the days from 22nd -29th Nov 2008, it was slightly different, a lot more interesting things happened, I had a few social gathering with some of my friends during last week and yes, I was at work again, another 4days 3nights training but this time, it was held at Kota Tinggi Waterfall Resort, Malaysia. It was really a nice trip up north.

Yuppie yup, I had gained some nice experiences as well for the past week and i’m going to share it here at JonesLiew.com. For the next few days, I will ensure the number of post that I owed will be back to mark.

So stay tuned, people! and remember ” never do things for the sake of doing”

The title of this post was a quote said to me by one of my participants in a recent training camp. He said that, the statement just came to his mind when he was thinking how to summarise his learning from the camp. Kudos to him, as for me, this quote “Fate, doesn’t lies in the stars but it lies in you. You choose your Fate, nobody but you” really struck me big time!!

It just make me realised that whatever you do or where ever you are now has little to do with Fate but it got everything that is to do with yourself. Where you are or what you are today is hugely due to the choices you had made in life and it had nothing to do with Fate… just use my current situation as an example, it is not Fate that make me working as a trainer now, it is not fate that brought me a degree, it is not Fate that fails my business venture and it is not Fate that I am who I am today.

It is me, myself that make who i am today, Why?  this is because, at certain and different points in my life, I had decided to make a choice and made a decision and stick to it. Regardless, the results of the choice is positive or negative, I am the one that create my own results and I will be responsible for it .

When we are talking about choices we are always talking about options too, in any situations, there are plenty of choices and options , however, the challenge is, are we able to see them or not.

Many of time, people fails to be aware that they are the one who got themselves into certain situations, hence they seldom will take responsibility to their own life… and more often than not, they will push everything to the Fate, saying things like.. “this is destiny,i can’t change it, i’m fated to be like that” etc, etc.

Guess what, for people who always says those above-mentioned statements, things will never going to change for them, and that’s because they had leave everything to Fate, there is no need for them to take any form of action because they believed that whatever is going to happen to them is due their Fate! And not long from now, they will also forget that they actually can have choices to make a difference to their own life.

The good thing now is that I’m aware that I have not allow myself to let fate to decide who am I and what am I, I’m really happy to understand that where am I today is largely due to my choices that I had made in the past. I will not blame Fate for my downfalls,nor will I use Fate as an excuse if things are not moving smoothly for me.

I’m so glad that I have the awareness that indeed “Fate, doesn’t lies in the stars but it lies in you”, and because of that, I am able to be more clear of what I want and what are the choices and options available to me.

Now is really the time to take responsibility and ownership of my own life, so that I can design my Fate and not let Fate design me.