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It seems that 2008 is a great year for wedding, for the month of November, I had 2 invitation. and this month I have another 1 more. The total wedding that I had attended is easily more than 15 and that is about more than 1 wedding dinner per month man!. In January, I had about 4, and the hottest month was September where I went for 7 weddings in a month!!!

Nowadays, weddings are always schedule to start with Cocktails at 7pm and the Dinner at 7.30pm, but then again Wedding dinner will never start on time. So at times, I will also arrive slightly later than the stated time, but, I will only allow myself to be late for 15 min at the max, so that I will not delay the whole event. Most of the time I will skip the cocktail reception and arrive at the ball room at about 7.30pm-7.45pm so that I will be sure that I will not be too late. Haha

However, it can’t be say to the rest of the people,as the dinner I had on last Saturday didn’t start till 9pm!! That means we were actually waiting for people who are at least one and half hour late!! If we were waiting for one or two person, I think it is OK, but at about 8.45pm there were still quite a lot of pockets of seats that were empty.

I mean, I’m not trying to be a Saint or claimed that I was never late for a wedding dinner, it is just that if I will be super late, I will definitely rush to the venue ASAP, and is just that I can never understand how can a person who were more than one hour late and still can pretend that nothing happened.

By my own standard, 10-15mins late is not a problem, 15-30mins is acceptable but to be more than 1 hour late is a NO, NO, NO,!!!

For me is simple, you know you have a wedding to attend and on the card it stated dinner will be served at 7.30pm and if you think you will meet a traffic jam if you are driving, then make an effort to leave early lah!!

Ha, some of you might be thinking why am I so worked up as it is a very normal common thing.  And you are right, it is a common thing and because it is a common thing that’s why I’m so mad!  as I had experienced the same situation of latecomers in every single wedding dinner that I had attended this year. I cannot recall any of the 16 wedding I attended had started before 8.30pm let alone starting on time.

The funny thing is that I always heard people complaining about wedding dinner ending later and later and yet, they don’t complaining about people who are coming later and later.

Some of the people around also tell me that “Well, is like that one lah, is either you leave with it or you can continue to bitch about it”and yar, I might sound like I’m bitching right now, but I can tell you that the “either this or that” doesn’t work for me, and that the reason why I decided to write this post.

Is time for people to know that, “One person’s little action can affect another person’s plan.” So, in this case, one person’s act of coming late will result a late start of the dinner and eventually delay the whole event, and people who has plan after the dinner might or will be affected.

It is also time for people to be more aware that if they choose to have an act of punctuality and be on time for the dinner they will see that the wedding will start on time and the event will not be delay and then people who have plans are the dinner can go on to carry out their plans at ease, and then people will not complained about wedding dinner is getting later and later. People need to know they can choose to make a stand and change things and it is still using the same idea of “One person’s little action can affect another person’s plan.”

Since I know that I can’t live with the problem,16 weddings that all started late is just too much for me and I will not just bitched about it, what I will do now, is that I will ensure that myself will not be late for any wedding anymore and I will ensure that my friends who are going to the same wedding will be on time too and of course, to tell the purpose and reason of me taking such efforts.

Put it simply, the purpose is to have the wedding dinner to start on time so that people don’t have to waste time to wait for another person and the reason will be people can learn that they can make an effort to be on time and to let them understand that, their actions does affect other people.

At least that is what i intend to do and I will start by the next wedding dinner that I’m going to attend on the 27th December. 

Somebody just have to make a stand, and I have decided to do so. anyone care enough to join me?